When you are single and you want to start a new relationship, you start to find the right person to start something important with. You can use all the method you want, howevery it will come the point where you will have to hang out with that person for the first time…and we all know how the world thinks about the first date. Those are my two question: “is the first date so important?” and “how does the perfect first date might look like?”
Yes, first date is important, but not so important as people might think. No matter where you met this person or how, the point is that all those moments you live whith your target (meeting each other at the same bar casually, maybe you take the elevator together or you spend your lunchtime together) help you only to convince him or her that you are something different, or at least worthy for an opportunity to shine. And your opportunity to shine is the first date, the moment where you are alone with the person you want so bad are. This is the main game you have been waiting for. The pressure and the expectations are hige and you want to make sure that your date will be interested in your after your first date. So, basically, it’s the very first brick in the wall of love. But still it’s not so important as you might think.
The problem with the first date is that we think that either it goes well, or the potencial relationship will never starts. Who says that? It’s the first date, this is the problem.
Even if you have a crush on that person, you have no idea who he or she is. He or she can be the best or even the worst person in the world. You have no idea. And the first date is there to understand if the person in front of you is just someone you want to bang or if it’s relationship material. Before that you are maybe physically attracted or you find him or her just sexy, cute, kind, good looking, hot but nothing somehow related to love.
And that’s my problem with first dates. We only want to surpirse the other and often we pretend to be someone we are not. We invest story to make look us better, we use someone else’s ones and we exaggerate things, because we think that we are not just good enough…especially if we have the luck to date someone way much beyond our level. That’s the big mistake we can do. If our date is there in front of us means that he or she is already as much interested in you as you are in him or her….unless you have already lied to him or her since day one, in that case you are an idiot! NEVER LIE, especially in love!
The only thing you have to do is be yourself and see what happens, without having any kind of fear of showing the good and the bad side. Your date wants to see the truth, then let him or her decide…and the same must be on the other side: she or she must be honest, in this way you can decide. You don’t have to do more than that!
If it’s meant to be, it will be meant to be. If you are made for each other, no matter what you both will do in the first date, you will end up together and live a very happy, long and funny relationship! Just be honest, be yourself and let your date free to decide. This is the reason of a first date: introduce yourself in the most complete possible way and see if there some common ground to walk on together.