Bodyshaming is Horrible!

I have already told that for me fitness is something that anybody should fell forced to do, but you should do only if you want to or you need to, in case of medical advice. But we know that this world is not so easy to understand at all and here we are to see women in perfect shape and with any kind of fett in their body. Do they want to? Not exactly. Why do they need to? That’s the question.

“Huston, we have problem”. Well…in this case is not only Huston to have a problem, but the entire world apparently. What kind of problem do we have? Oh, i think you should know already about it. I am talking about “Bodyshaming“. No matter what year or century we are, women and their body have often a very controversial relationship. Not because they hate what they see, not always at least, but because of men…men that often don’t use their brain to understand simple things.

Before to say anything else, i want to reflect about the word “bodyshaming”, because people have a wrong definition of this word in mind.

Body shaming is the act of deriding or mocking a person’s physical appearance. The scope of body shaming is wide, and can include, although is not limited to fat-shaming, shaming for thinness, height-shaming, shaming of hairiness (or lack thereof), of hair-color, body-shape, one’s muscularity (or lack thereof), shaming of looks (facial features), and in its broadest sense may even include shaming of tattoos and piercings or diseases that leave a physical mark such as psoriasis.

Wikipedia

Technically, every time you say something bad about someone else you are body shaming that person. And given the fact that “body shaming” happens always on people’s back, it’s also a cowardly move. However, the spreadest kind of Body-shaming is the one when a obese person is insulted. More specifically when a obese woman is insulted. To be honest: men doesn’t have this kind of problem. Not because men are not overweight, but because lot of men are in this condition for many reasons. More than that, a man “a little bit too big” is something “accepted and allowed” by the society…a society controlled and ruled by men. There are in internet pages, especially in Italy, where the “Alpha man” is celebrated as a powerful and amazing being. Don’t you know what is an Alpha man? Well, an alpha man is a man with a big belly, lot of body hair, often smelly, and behave in a mean and arrogant way, like he were the boss of the world. Apparently, to be an overweight man is a good thing, but what is for a woman look like being overweight?

Do i really need to answer that question? If you have really no idea what’s all about, you are either a blind or a stupid man…maybe both. Women struggle with their body, not because they want to, but because they are mentally “forced” to. It’s very sad to think about that. However, i would like to talk about women and body under another point of view. I don’t want to talk about the reason behind it, but how to solve and improve the situation.

I don’t want to say that all women are beautiful and things like that. I am a human being and like everybody else in this world i have my tastes and i think that for me there are wonderful women and ugly women. The key is respect. I can think that this or that woman is not exactly the most beautiful woman in the world, but it doesn’t mean that i have to treat that woman with disprespect, rudness and mean attitude. I am not better than her. I am as important as her. So, i have to respect her and allow her to live her life as best as she could.
More than that, i don’t have any right to say anything about her. I could “insult” her about her weight, just because i am thinner than her, but i could be hunchback, bold or maybe walking of a wheel-chair. Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you.

And we should stop to standardize women’s body. Men demand that women have to look in a certain way…men, please don’t act like you don’t know what i am talking about: we all know what kind of way. On the other side women are “forced” to play this little game, because often is for them the only way to have a decent life. So, they go to the gym, they follow this training advices on Instagram and they start diet to lose weight and be attractive enough. It’s a sick game that is ending slowly. Luckly women have started to say “no, i don’t play this game anymore” and they started to accept themselves and live with their bodies. It’s a long process, but the long journey starts always with the first step.

Will it change anything? That’s a question. However, the right one would be: Is it enough?No, i don’t think so…unless men don’t play with. As long as men don’t start to cooperate with the women, the situation will be the same…with the only different that skinny bodies would not be around so often anymore. Actually something will change: the women’s bank account.

See ya

Mauro

The Ironically All-Rounder
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